To Me or By Me

To Me or By Me – That is the question

Whether I come to the keyboard locked and loaded, knowing exactly where the message is going; or agonized over what to say next, writing always offers me the chance of more personal growth. There is always more to learn and through this process, I trust value is being added to you and those you influence.

Today, I continue reflecting on the content of the 15 Commitments of a Conscious Leader. Conscious leadership involves recognizing when you are below the line and consciously making a shift that moves you from being closed to being open, from defensive to curious, from wanting to be right to wanting to learn, and from fighting for survival of the ego to leading from a place of security and trust.

The growth of a conscious leader is not necessarily one that progresses through developmental stages, but rather practices self-awareness to answer,

“Where am I leading from?”

The authors suggest four “states” from which...

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Predicting Success

Predicting Success

“William Glasser: “We learn 10 percent of what we read, 20 percent of what we hear, 30 percent of what we see, 50 percent of what we see and hear, 70 percent of what we discuss, 80 percent of what we experience, and 95 percent of what we teach others.”
― Bill Capodagli, The Disney Way, Revised Edition: Harnessing the Management Secrets of Disney in Your Company

There are so many things I love about that movie and in a roundabout way I have found something new to appreciate.

How can you help but cheer for the entire Incredibles family, but understanding the four competencies that have proven to be the greatest predictors for sustained success, I have a greater respect for one of the instruments of destruction created by Buddy or, as he called himself, Syndrome. The machine was the Omnidroid of the Kronos Project.

Quoting the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership once again.

“Current research shows that over the course of our career, four...

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Locating Yourself

Locating Yourself

As you are aware, my development as a leadership coach has recently taken me to the study and application of Conscious Leadership. Here is what I am learning.
Conscious leaders continually ask themselves over and over,

“Where am I?”

Using the simple tool of a horizontal line, at any moment, all people and all leaders are either ABOVE the line or BELOW the line. This is how we are being with what is occurring in our life right now.

The authors of 15 Commitments of a Conscious Leader book suggest that 98% of leaders spend 95% of their time below the line.

When we are above the Line, we are open, curious, and committed to learning. When we are below the line, we are closed, defensive, and committed to being right.

So, stop right now and ask yourself,

“Where am I? In this now moment, am I above the line or below the line?”

Typically, when people are below the line, they believe certain things about the world.

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Are You Above the Line?

Are You Above the Line

Are you living your life above the line?

In the book, the 15 Commitments of a Conscious Leader by Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman and Kaley Klemp. They describe their model for leadership this way,

The model is a simple black line. At any moment, a leader is either above the line or below the line. When we are above the line, we are open, curious and committed to learning. When we’re below the line, we’re closed, defensive and committed to being right. What we suggest is that the first fundamental building block of conscious leadership is the ability to accurately locate yourself at any moment, asking, “Am I above or below the line?”

This sounds rather simple, but it actually requires a high degree of self-awareness. Many leaders spend most of their time below the line. In fact, it is the normal state. Asking them if they’re below the line would be like asking a fish if it’s wet. When leaders begin the journey to conscious...

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When Biases Bite

When Biases Bite

“This will be the topic of your next email.” Michael Barravecchio

Those were the last words of my coach as we finished our call yesterday. He was right. I am sure you have heard of cognitive biases before. As Forest Gump might say, there are about a “go-zillion” of them. Reading through the list of them is about like listening to Forest describe all the different ways to prepare shrimp.

One of them has me pegged. Before I learned the official moniker, I would have called it the “This is going to be a slam dunk” bias. In 1979, Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky first proposed it as the Planning Fallacy Bias. It is basically the tendency to grossly underestimate how long a task will take to complete. It also includes the tendency to underestimate the cost of a task. Yep, got that too.

No one in the house knows where the nozzle to the kitchen sink faucet went. Perhaps, there was an occasion when it was more than potato skins...

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A Quick Self-Check

Quick Self-Check

Here is a quick self-check. (Tools like these should always be approached from the perspective of self-awareness, never for self-judgment.)

When you look back on the past twelve months, can you identify and describe evidence of personal growth?

Any life events and or milestones you have celebrated?

What is your greatest accomplishment in the past 12 months?

Have there been any changes in you that have fascinated or pleasantly surprised your family, friends, or co-workers?

What have you learned?

Which books have you read? (Any you would recommend?)

What skills have you improved?

Is there anything improved about the way you think?

Is there anything better about the way you use your time or are you just busy being busy?

Any starts and stops? What are you staying committed to?

  • Exercise routines
  • Nutrition habits
  • Books
  • Personal growth tools
  • Home improvement projects

Is there anyone you owe a phone call to?

Is there anything better about your financial picture or the way...

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The Benefits of Coaching

Benefits of Using a Professional Coach

Source: International Coaching Federation (3rd Party Study)

Professional coaching brings many wonderful benefits: fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhanced decision-making skills, greater interpersonal effectiveness, and increased confidence. And, the list does not end there. Those who undertake coaching also can expect appreciable improvement in productivity, satisfaction with life and work, and the attainment of relevant goals.

Increased Productivity

Professional coaching maximizes potential and, therefore, unlocks latent sources of productivity.

Positive People

Building the self-confidence of employees to face challenges is critical in meeting organizational demands

Return on Investment

Coaching generates learning and clarity for forward action with a commitment to measurable outcomes. The vast majority of companies (86%) say they at least made their investment back

Satisfied Clients

Virtually all companies and individuals who hire...

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Why Hire a Coach - Post 2 of 3

Why Hire a Coach Part 2 of 3

Life doesn’t reward us for standing still, does it. Thankfully, we are not like some creatures who must learn to run shortly after birth to avoid being eaten. In fact, compared to any creature, humans get much more time being nurtured before being set lose “in the wild”. It’s hard to think of any creature who spends the first 18 to 20 years of their life developing under the care and nurture of their parents.

One dynamic of this longer development process is that it softens the impact of life’s challenges because our parents absorb much of the responsibility for the outcome of these challenges. Unless intentionally provided, we have few opportunities to learn, apply and reflect upon many of the hard skills and soft skills necessary for career and life success. We also spend much of the first two decades of our life taking little initiative for our own learning. During these formative years, we are receiving and creating...

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Why Hire a Coach - Post 3 of 3

Why Hire a Coach Part 3 of 3

In some way, most of us love to learn even when we resist (hate) being taught. Experience tells me that we are designed to grow continually. Because of what I do for a living, I might be more inclined to seek examples of inspiration than many. But, isn’t it encouraging when we see examples of people who have overcome challenges or achieve a major life goal. I am especially energized when I see people advanced in years who still possess a healthy appetite for growth. It persuades me to be a person who grows through life and doesn’t just go through life.

Whether we are acute or chronic growth-seekers, there is nothing more empowering than the belief of others. Today is Day 3 of 3 in my series about the value of hiring a proper professional coach. Among all the value that a coach adds it is their belief in your potential that tops the list. John Whitmore was one of the pioneers of the executive coaching movement and he put it this way,

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Why Hire a Coach - Post 1 of 3

coaching entrepreneur Oct 10, 2020

Why Hire a Coach Part 1 of 3

If you calculated the amount of time and money you have spent on training in your professional career, what would that add up to in terms of dollar amount and hours spent? You would need to include your formal education in that equation.

Next question:

From the last seminar that you attended, can you list your top seven takeaways without referring to any notes or conference material?

Or, (not to step on any toes) but what was the message about two weeks ago in your place of worship?

You might be able to recall all of this information quickly, but if you can’t, you are not alone. Look at these results from a study on adult learning done by the National Testing Labs in Bethel, Maine which I am borrowing from the Accelerated Coaching Training Manual from the Lifeforming Institute.

They found that retention rate from lectures (two weeks later) hovers around 5%. However, for discussion retention rises to 50%; for hands-on learning, it reaches 70% and...

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